A Nervous Welcome

Welcome, thank you for choosing to visit my blog. Allow me to introduce myself and the reason for this blog. I’m Andrew, I live with my gorgeous wife Sophie and we we have a beautiful son together, Henry. On the Tuesday 20th March 2018 when my wife was 38 weeks and 2 days pregnant with…

A Silent Birth

Contractions. The start of the miracle of birth. Signalling the time to meet your child after nine months of you waiting and them growing is here. Thursday 22nd March 2018, this is when Sophie’s contractions started. Cue excitement and mad panic that there are some of Henry’s things not set up for when he comes…

The Last Time I Saw Your Face

Many people’s first experiences with funerals will most likely be that of a grandparent, or sadly a parent. Burying a loved one is always heart-breaking, but it is more understandable when it is your parents or grandparents, we expect to outlive our older relatives. What we never expect to happen is that we will have…

Henry’s Heroes – Tommy’s

Up until last week myself and Sophie had little knowledge of Tommy’s and what they do for bereaved parents and pregnancy. I was aware of all the research which they carry out to find the answers as to why so many pregnancies don’t successfully last the full term, but I was unaware of all of…

An Unnatural Loss

Loss is such a personal experience, we are all likely to feel it throughout our lives some on many occasions and others much more rarely. Many children first experience loss in the form of a loved pet passing away, a goldfish or dog. It does not matter how intelligent the animal was or how long…

Henry’s Heroes – Remember My Baby

I first heard of the charity Remember My Baby shortly after we arrived at the hospital in the early stages of labour. We were sent to a specialised bereavement suite for families of stillborn babies to stay in up to and after birth. It was there on the window sill that I saw a photo…

Silver Linings

When I married Sophie, I finished my speech off with the embarrassingly cheesy line of “I will always be your silver lining” (just in case you did not know my surname is Silver, not that it makes it better). The point I am getting at is that no matter what came our way I would…

Calling All Angel Parents

Trying to understand the strength of emotion a person feels when losing a child is impossible, many of us to believe it to be the one of the worst experiences imaginable. Unfortunately for anyone that has suffered the loss of a baby this is a reality, being dragged by the ankles through a seemingly endless…

12 Weeks On

Today marks 12 weeks since Henry was born. The end of the so called ‘Fourth Trimester’. Normally in life, 12 weeks is not a milestone, a measurement or a period of time of any significance. This time last year I would not bookmark or fear dates, 12 weeks after an event. However, when it comes…

What’s In A Word

Words. They are nothing but a combination of letters strung together. Shapes on a screen. Strokes of ink on paper. But when combined they bring meaning, paint a picture for the reader and draw on our emotions. Each word has a different meaning to each person.  For me if you were to say the word…

Not Just Another Statistic

June is SANDS awareness month, they are trying to help break the silence around stillbirth and neonatal death by encouraging everyone to sensitively start a conversation with someone whose baby has died, however long ago. Find out more information on the SANDS website #FindingTheWords The world we live in now is full of statistics and…