A Nervous Welcome

Welcome, thank you for choosing to visit my blog. Allow me to introduce myself and the reason for this blog. I’m Andrew, I live with my gorgeous wife Sophie and we we have a beautiful son together, Henry. On the Tuesday 20th March 2018 when my wife was 38 weeks and 2 days pregnant with…

The Day The Music Died

It is said that when something of great importance to you is on your mind, you begin to see it in anything and everything. This could range from quitting smoking or dieting to breaking up with someone. However, this force is at its greatest when the cause is definitive, and what is more definitive and…

Heartbeat

Thud. Thud. Thud. Thud.   The beating of your heart, is how I know you’re safe. It keeps the dream alive, that one day we’ll be three. Watching you on the scans, seeing your body grow. I start to see a future, that one day we’ll be three.   Feeling your many kicks, throughout the…

If You Were Here

If you were here, I would smile not cry. I would put you to bed and sing a lullaby. We would go for walks out in the park And always be back just before dark. I could watch you laugh and sing and play Each and every single day. If you were here I could…

28 Years

The 2nd October was my 28th birthday and I had planned on spending some time to do something nice for my son, (How I wish that would have read “with my son”). Unfortunately the tasks I had thought about, I could not bring myself to start. Instead as I was searching for something in the…

A Silent Birth

Contractions. The start of the miracle of birth. Signalling the time to meet your child after nine months of you waiting and them growing is here. Thursday 22nd March 2018, this is when Sophie’s contractions started. Cue excitement and mad panic that there are some of Henry’s things not set up for when he comes…

The Last Time I Saw Your Face

Many people’s first experiences with funerals will most likely be that of a grandparent, or sadly a parent. Burying a loved one is always heart-breaking, but it is more understandable when it is your parents or grandparents, we expect to outlive our older relatives. What we never expect to happen is that we will have…

Henry’s Heroes – Tommy’s

Up until last week myself and Sophie had little knowledge of Tommy’s and what they do for bereaved parents and pregnancy. I was aware of all the research which they carry out to find the answers as to why so many pregnancies don’t successfully last the full term, but I was unaware of all of…

An Unnatural Loss

Loss is such a personal experience, we are all likely to feel it throughout our lives some on many occasions and others much more rarely. Many children first experience loss in the form of a loved pet passing away, a goldfish or dog. It does not matter how intelligent the animal was or how long…

Henry’s Heroes – Remember My Baby

I first heard of the charity Remember My Baby shortly after we arrived at the hospital in the early stages of labour. We were sent to a specialised bereavement suite for families of stillborn babies to stay in up to and after birth. It was there on the window sill that I saw a photo…

Silver Linings

When I married Sophie, I finished my speech off with the embarrassingly cheesy line of “I will always be your silver lining” (just in case you did not know my surname is Silver, not that it makes it better). The point I am getting at is that no matter what came our way I would…